tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1143889317610941496.post201965475821451812..comments2012-10-23T05:18:46.086-04:00Comments on From the Ashes: Things Not to Say to a Cancer Patient or an InfertileMaggiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05110274608693124961noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1143889317610941496.post-51267057397951332322012-05-12T22:21:45.723-04:002012-05-12T22:21:45.723-04:00Preach it sister!! You have said a mouthful...you ...Preach it sister!! You have said a mouthful...you are right..people are stupid and insensitive....geez...but, if it makes you feel better...you did make me laugh!! take care!Mumbai Beginningshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06684302732700022541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1143889317610941496.post-38538087016274450372012-05-12T07:05:10.781-04:002012-05-12T07:05:10.781-04:00I'm sorry. My intention was not to make any o...I'm sorry. My intention was not to make any one feel bad about things they may or may not have said. Everyone is different, but personally, even if someone said something insensitive to me, it was better than letting it be the elephant in the room. It sounds like you have been a compassionate friend to him, and I'm sure he appreciates being able to talk openly about his situation and his feelings. Continue to be a friend to him and don't worry too much about what to say. You are probably much more comfort to him than you will ever know.Maggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05110274608693124961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1143889317610941496.post-31560274714784611642012-05-12T03:11:58.155-04:002012-05-12T03:11:58.155-04:00Reading this kind of makes me think I may have goo...Reading this kind of makes me think I may have goofed! Many times people say stuff because they don't know what to say and its really awkward to be quiet. My work mate has cancer and I told him I believe he will be alright and I just reaLly thought he would be. We started talking in depth a few days back and I thought he looked better and told him so until he told me he has blood cancer and that there is not much hope. I asked him to stop saying that and told him a thing or too about me. Even though it couldn't be compared, he felt better and we had a laugh and I rubbed his head and since then I really can't stop thinking about him and pray for him. I liked the fact that he chatted with me and at that time I knew he wanted to because he was feeling down and the only thing I could tell him was that he will be alright and I believe that. This post has got me thinking now and I won't really know what to say when next I see him but maybe I will ask him if he felt ok talking to me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1143889317610941496.post-19924935518824595512012-05-11T19:56:30.231-04:002012-05-11T19:56:30.231-04:00Maggie I love that you wrote this! I can relate wi...Maggie I love that you wrote this! I can relate with so many of the comments you made. I think people are so uncomfortable when they see examples of the fragility of life that they say these things not to make you feel better , but to make themselves feel better. It comes across so insensitively that they should either just close their mouths or talk about the weather. Cant wait to hear upcoming news for you. All the bestNew Year Dreaminghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05759690857403299303noreply@blogger.com